Happy Halloween

Halloween is an annual holiday observed on October 31, which commonly includes activities such as trick-or-treating, attending costume parties,carving jack-o-lanterns, bonfires,apple bobbing, visiting haunted attractions, telling scary stories, and watching horror films. These are some of the activities that many of us are doing and enjoying as it was also the time for family bonding and long vacation.

Trick-or-treating is a customary celebration for children on Halloween. Children go in costume from house to house, asking for treats such as candy or sometimes money, with the question, "Trick or treat?" The word "trick" refers to a (mostly idle) "threat" to perform mischief on the homeowners or their property if no treat is given.

Halloween costumes are traditionally modeled after supernatural figures such as monsters, ghosts, skeletons, witches, and devils. Over time, the costume selection extended to include popular characters from fiction, celebrities, and generic archetypes such as ninjas and princesses.

There are several games traditionally associated with Halloween parties. One common game is dunking or apple bobbing, in which apples float in a tub or a large basin of water and the participants must use their teeth to remove an apple from the basin. A variant of dunking involves kneeling on a chair, holding a fork between the teeth and trying to drop the fork into an apple. Another common game involves hanging up treacle or syrup-coated scones by strings; these must be eaten without using hands while they remain attached to the string, an activity that inevitably leads to a very sticky face.

Haunted attractions are entertainment venues designed to thrill and scare patrons. Most attractions are seasonal Halloween businesses.

Big "Dont" In Your Resume

Finding a job these days is very hard and competition for every opening is fierce. According to employers that for every position advertised, hundreds of people send in applications for the job along with their resumes but majority of these applicants are rejected because only one person is needed for the position or they may be rejected for the job because of what they've put into their resumes. Below are some of the information not needed to be put in the resume and if you've been putting in any of the information cited, then you have stop it! You may be hurting your chances of getting hired.

1. Unrelated Part Time or Temporary Work
Whatever job you're applying for, your employer is not interested to the part time jobs you are working before especially if it is not related to the job advertised or they are looking for. So do not include it in the resume.

 2. Unrelated Interests
Your interests or hobbies won't help you nail the job if they're unrelated to the position offered. Mention only interests that make you a more attractive candidate for the job and exclude all the rest.

3. Boring Words and Resume Clichés
Use powerful verbs to say the same thing. Words such as "team player", "detail-oriented" and other similar resume clichés are no longer effective in selling yourself to a prospective employer. Find appropriate words in the dictionary if necessary. For example for the word "team player", you can write: "cooperates and collaborates easily with other staff" or "carefully vigilant about details" instead of "detail oriented". A resume that's different than the usual run-of-the-mill submissions will grab the attention of HR people.

4. High School Diploma
If you only have a high school education, it may be prudent not to include that fact, unless you are currently a college student in pursuit of a degree.

5. Vague Objectives
If you want to list your objectives, make sure they are concrete. For example, something similar to the following can be very effective: Objective: To contribute to the success and profitability of the company through my effort, expertise and experience. A vague objective, such as the following, should not be in your resume. Objective: To help the company through my hard work.

6. Your Photo
Don't send your photo along with your application. Your face is unimportant to a potential employer, unless a picture is requested, which is a rare occurrence. Some people who have sent photographs with job applications the employer is likely to ignore all applications with a picture of the applicant attached.
7. Personal Qualities
Your age, race, religion, medical condition, disability, height, weight and sexual orientation are irrelevant. The law requires employers to disregard these qualities in their hiring decisions

8. Weaknesses
Don't broadcast your weaknesses. For example, don't write something like: "I'm good at word processing, but not quite good on Excel and Power Point.". Don't give an employer an excuse to reject you. If you're asked, however, after you've applied for a job, don't lie or exaggerate - your weakness will become evident in time, and could lead to your dismissal, if not disclosed initially if asked.

9. Negative Comments
Don't bad-mouth your previous boss. Don't complain about your financial troubles. If you were fired from your last position for stealing paper clips, don't mention it. If you were dishonorably discharged from the military, or did a prison stretch, don't mention it. You can be truthful about any of these issues only if asked.
10. Lies and/or Exaggerations
Don't lie about your experience, education or achievements. Don't increase your previous salary. Employers in these tough times have been verifying facts on applicant’s resumes, and almost every lie and exaggeration will be nailed.

11. Self-Serving Goals
If you're applying for a job in a certain industry, just to learn that business as a stepping stone to another position, don't mention that. Many younger applicants will write their long-term goals in their resumes which resulted to rejection of the job. Most employers want applicants to focus on the job they're offering, not on some future job.

12. Politics, Prejudices and Personal Preferences
Whatever your political persuasion, and whoever you dislike, should not be included in your resume. You may like or dislike the current government administration, but your potential employer will probably not care.

Landing a job right now is tough and if you follow the tips mentioned above and leaved out that information in your resume, you’ll have a better chance of getting the job you applied for.

October 31 - A Special Non-working Holiday

Malacanang has declared October 31 a special non-working day to give Filipinos more travel time during the traditional commemoration of the All Souls and Saints Day.

October 31, Monday, is declared a holiday throughout the country. It is under Proclamation 265 signed by Executive Secretary Pacquito Ochoa,

This is to "give full opportunity to our people to properly observe the day with all its religious commitment which invariably requires them to travel to and from different regions of the country," the proclamation noted.

All Saints Day on November 1, Tuesday, has earlier been declared as special non-working day.

50 things College Students Should Know

Every morning before doing my daily task in the office I always browse headlines of the news and I was fascinated with this article about college studies that is why I would like to share this to my reader. I hope you can get some learning out of it.
College study is very important because it is the basis for employment. The grades that you get from your college years are the ones to be presented when you apply for jobs. And it is one of the bases for the employers whether to hire you or not. That is why it is certainly important to study hard but aside from college grade there are some guidelines in order to adjust the college life.

1. A lot of things will be changing and different, your friends and yourself. Let them.

2. Chances are you will be bunking at the dorms. Remember to call your love ones back home a few times a week, even if just for a few minutes.

3. There’s something amazing about songs, for they bring back memories of your favorite moments. One way or another you will be listening to music on the radio or at parties, so why not make albums of these songs. Years down the road, they serve as records of your best time in life.

4. Rest when you need to, for it recharges your mind and body for your next journey.

5. Wondering when you are most productive? Are you diurnal or nocturnal? If you are nocturnal and function best at night, embrace and enjoy that. It may be the only time in your life when you can.

6. Some like to stay ahead of time while others work best under pressure. If you are the latter, chances are you will procrastinate till the last minute. Experiment with them, and see which works best for you.

7. As much as it is important to be a responsible adult, at least a few times during college, do something fun and irresponsible.

8. Make friends with your favorite professors. There is so much more to learn from each other than books.
9. Spend some time alone every single day. Sleeping doesn't count.

10. Go out and have fun, go on dates. Don't feel like every date has to turn into a relationship.

11. Don't date your roommate’s ex, it’ll be awkward.

12. When your friends' family visits, join them if possible. You will get to know your friends better and you'll get free food, etc.

13. Remember to send a hand-written letter to someone who made college possible for you and describe your adventures thus far. It will mean a lot to him/her now, and it will mean a lot to you in ten years when he/she shows it to you.

14. Embrace the differences between you and your classmates. Always ask yourself, "what can I learn from this person?" There are things more important than just books and grades.

15. All-nighters are entirely overrated. Start early and rest plenty.

16. Those in college while maintaining a long-distance relationship with someone from high school: you two have to decide how things will work out. Understand that you two will be in different environments, but do not let your relationship interfere with your college experience. If you don't want to date anyone else, that's totally fine! What's not fine, however, is missing out on a lot of defining experiences because you're on the phone with your boyfriend/girlfriend for three hours every day.

17. Working out differences is best done in person, not over Facebook, email, IM or anything else. Body language tells you more than just words.

18. Take risks.

19. Don't be afraid of (or excited by) the co-ed bathrooms. You have the same stuff, period.

20. Come Wednesday night, your week is more than half over. Thursday and Friday will only get better.

21. Accept failures and pick yourself up. It's how we grow. What matters is not that you failed, but that you refuse to stay down.

22. Take classes that have nothing to do with your major(s), purely for the fun of it. And you'll get to make more friends.

23. Think about the future, but enjoy the present. College is more than just a stepping stone.

24. When you're living on a college campus with hundreds of things going on every second of every day, watching TV is pretty much a waste of your time and money.

25. Don't be afraid of Cupid’s arrow and never take it for granted. Celebrate it, but don't let it define your college experience.

26. Much of the time you once had for pleasure is now gone. Keep a list of these things, so that you can start working on them when you graduate.

27. Setbacks may seem like the end of the world, but take a deep breath, and reflect on what you have learned.
28. Every once in awhile, there will come an especially powerful moment when you can actually feel that an experience has changed who you are. Embrace these, even if they are painful.

29. Stay open-minded, regardless of your political or religious beliefs. You can't learn if you're closed off.

30. If you need a job, find something that you enjoy. Just because it is work doesn't mean it has to suck.

31. Take breaks from leading; it's good to follow sometimes.

32. Use your camera and make records of life in college. They become priceless in time to come.

33. Stay healthy and safe. You can’t do anything otherwise.

34. Drop your ego and ask for help. It won’t kill you.

35. Just because you are in the bottom half of class now, doesn’t mean you suck. Things can only improve when at your worst. Don’t let your grades affect you, get used to it.

36. In ten years time, very few of you will look as good as you do right now. Revel in how hot you are before its too late.

37. In the long run, which college you attended doesn't matter as much as what you do with the opportunities you're given there. The college name on your resume doesn’t mean anything if that's the only thing on your resume. In college, you will have access to a variety of opportunities, grab them.

38. On the flip side, don't try to do everything at once.

39. Stay objective. If your emotions are getting in the way, ask for help.

40. With the high national obesity figures, it is important to eat right. But treat yourself sometimes; emotional health is just as important as physical health.

41. It’s ok to be a complete ass at least once. Cake in the face sounds good.

42. Wash your sheets at least once a month. You do not want to be buffet for bed bugs.

43. If you are in a relationship, bring your significant other to meet your friends. They may pick up things you don’t.

44. Experiment with food. Those strange looking dishes you friend is making may be taste pretty good. Expand your horizons.

45. Explore the campus, and find your own hideout like the ‘Room of Requirement’.

46. If you are no longer excited about your field of study, switch even if it complicates things. Life is too short for regrets.

47. Tattoos are permanent and costly. Be very certain.

48. Don't make fun of pre-frosh. You were there just a minute ago.

49. Enjoy every second of your college years. These seconds will fly by.

50. A time where learning is your key responsibility. Try to remember how lucky you are every day.

Enough talking, now go live the best years of your lives. Be yourself. Grab every moment, for there’s no way to turn back time.
Learn. Grow. Love.

Remembering Martial Law

It was on September 21, 1972 when Pres. Ferdinand E. Marcos declared Martial Law under proclamation 1081. What is the meaning of Martial Law? It was a law to suspend the civil rights and imposed military authority in the country. Marcos defended the declaration stressing the need for extra powers to put down the rising wave of violence allegedly caused by communists. The emergency rule was intended to eradicate the roots of rebellion and promote a rapid trend for national development. Marcos explained citing the provisions from the Philippine Constitution that Martial Law is a strategic approach to legally defend the Constitution and protect the welfare of the Filipino people from the dangerous threats posed by Muslim rebel groups and Christian vigilantes that places national security at risk during the time. He also added that Martial Law was not a military takeover but was then the only option to resolve the country’s dilemma on rebellion that stages national chaos threatening the peace and order of the country. According to Marcos that the emergency rule was to lead the country into what he calls a “New Society”.

Marcos used several events to justify martial law. Threat to the country’s security was intensifying following the re-establishment of the Communist Party of the Philippines (CPP) in 1968. Supporters of CPP’s military arm, the New People’s Army, also grew in numbers in Tarlac and other parts of the country. The alleged attempt to the life of then Minister of Defense Juan Ponce Enrile gave Marcos a window to declare Martial Law. Marcos announced the emergency rule the day after the shooting incident. Marcos also declared insurgency in the south caused by the clash between Muslims and Christians, which Marcos considered as a threat to national security. The Muslims were defending their ancestral land against the control of Christians who migrated in the area. The minority group organized the Moro National Liberation Front (MNLF) in Malaysia and pushed for the autonomy of Mindanao from the national government.

The move was initially supported by most Filipinos and was viewed by some critics as a change that solved the massive corruption in the country. Martial law ceased the clash between the executive and legislative branches of the government and a bureaucracy characterized by special interest. Marcos started to implement reforms on social and political values that hindered effective modernization. To match the accomplishments of its Asian neighbors, Marcos imposed the need for self-sacrifice for the attainment of national welfare. His reforms targeted his rivals within the elite depriving them of their power and patronage but did not affect their supporters (US Library of Congress, Martial Law and the Aftermath).

Thirty-thousand opposition figures and that’s include Senator Benigno Aquino, journalists, student and labor activists were detained at military compounds under the President’s command (Proclamation 1081 and Martial Law). The army and the Philippine Constabulary seized weapons and disbanded private armies controlled by prominent politicians and other influential figures (Proclamation 1081 and Martial Law). Marcos took control of the legislature and closed the Philippine Congress (Proclamation 1081 and Martial Law). Numerous media outfits were either closed down or operated under tight control (Proclamation 1081 and Martial Law). Marcos also allegedly funneled millions of the country’s money by placing some of his trusted supporters in strategic economic positions to channel resources to him. Experts call this the “crony capitalism.”

The deterioration of the political and economic condition in the Philippines triggered the decline of support on Marcos’ plans. More and more Filipinos took arms to dislodge the regime. Urban poor communities in the country’s capital were organized by the Philippine Ecumenical Council for Community and were soon conducting protest masses and prayer rallies. These efforts including the exposure of numerous human rights violations pushed Marcos to hold an election in 1978 and 1981 in an aim to stabilize the country’s chaotic condition. Marcos, in both events, won the election; however, his extended term as President of the Republic of the Philippines elicited an extensive opposition against his regime. Social unrest reached its height after former Senator Benigno Aquino was murdered. The incident sent thousands of Filipinos to the streets calling for Marcos’ removal from post. Turning again to his electoral strategy, Marcos held a snap election in 1986 but what he hoped will satisfy the masses only increased their determination to end his rule that seated Corazon Aquino, widow of Benigno Aquino, as President of the Philippines ousting Marcos from Malacañang Palace and ending the twenty-one years of tyrant rule. FREEDOM was achieved in a peaceful way.  

source:http://www.philippine-history.org

Shamcey Supsup Crowned as Third Runne-up in Miss Universe 2011

Miss Shamcey Supsup was named third runner-up at the Miss Universe 2011pageant held at Credicard Hall in Sao Paulo, Brzil. Throughtout the competition, Shamcey was among the top placers in NBC com’s Miss Universe voting poll. During the pageant Shamcey impressed her fans with her answer during the Q and A portion. She was asked by Judge Vivica A. Fox if she would change her religion to marry someone she loves. She answered: “No. I would not change my religion because, first of all, I love my God who created me and if that person truly loves me, he must also love my God”.

The winners of the Miss Universe 2011 are:

 Miss Universe 2011: Miss Angola, Leila Lopes

1st Runner-up - Miss Ukraine, Olesya Stefanko

2nd Runner-up - Miss Brazil, Priscila Machado

3rd Runner-up - Miss Philippines, Shamcey Supsup

4th Runner-up - Miss China , Zi Lin Luo Luo

Shamcey Leads the Miss Universe Online Voting

Shamcey Gurrea Supsup was born on May 16, 1986 in Iligan City, Philippines. Later on their family transferred to General Santos City. She studied at Notre Dame of Lagao during her elementary years. Shamcey graduated as a Salutatorian from Makati High School. In college, she took up Architecture and graduated as magna Cum Laude from the University of the Philippines. She ranked No. 1 Top Notcher in the Philippine Architectural Board Examination 2010 with a grade of 86.6%.
Shamcey joined the Bb. Pilipinas 2011 and was crowned as the Bb. Pilipinas Universe 2011 to compete the Miss Universe pageant held at Sao Paulo, Brazil. She also bagged the following award during pageant. Bb. Pilipinas- Miss Talent, Miss Cream Silk and Miss Philippines Airlines.
Today, Sept. 13, 2011 is the Miss Universe coronation day and first time in history that organizers are involving fans worldwide to vote for a contestant to the semi-finals. Shamcey is leading the raced of the online poll and she got a total of 25% of votes for a total of 1,578 votes. The winners of the online voting will automatically gets the Top 16 semi-finalist.Goodluck Shamcey!

Lea Salonga To Judge the Miss Universe 2011

One of the most globally admired Filipino achievers is our very own Ms. Lea Salonga. And she will be one of the seven judges in the Miss Universe 2011 pageant night in Sao Paulo, Brazil. The pageant will be held on September 13.
The other judges are three-time Indianapolis 500 champion Helios Castroneves, American broadcast legend Connie Chung, Brazilian Supermodel Isabeli Fontana, actress/television producer Vivica Fox, Adrienne Maloof of the hit series The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, and Miss Universe 2003 Amelia Vega.

Happy Birthday Mama Mary!

According to the history that the parents of Mary, Joachim and Anna were beyond the years of child bearing but they prayed and fasted that God grant their desire of having a child. And God grant their prayers and Mary was born. The birth of Mary was also miraculous. She was conceived without sin as a special grace because God had selected her to become the mother of His Son. As the mother of Jesus Christ, Mary has a central role in the life of the Roman Catholic Church. The Feast of the Birth of the Blessed Virgin Mary has been celebrated in the Church at least since the 8th Century. As Christians we are so thankful to Mama Mary for accepting the invitation from God to become the Mother of Jesus Christ, the Redeemer of the World. Happy Birthday Mama Mary

I Love Holidays

It will be a long weekend to all the people in the Philippines after the Malacañang declared August 29 and 30 a non-working holidays.

August 29 is declared a holiday in commemoration of the National Heroes Day and August 30 is a holiday also in observance of the end of Ramadan of our Muslim brothers and sisters which is known as Eid’l Fitr. Eid’l Fitr is an Islamic festival of renewal, reconciliation and peace that marks the end of the holy month of fasting.

Therefore it is a good time for family bonding and doing some worthwhile things at home. For me, I will be doing my gardening, cleaning up some clutters and after that maybe I would treat myself to a salon makeover. Happy Holidays!

Kadayawan Festival 2011

Kadayawan Festival was one of the most awaited celebration here in Davao City. It was a week long celebration showcasing the different events and programs highlighting the bountiful harvest  and giving honor and recognition of the different tribes domesticating the Davao Region. This year's celebration emphasizes the ten tribes of Davao. These were the Tausog;  Matigsalog;  Obu Manuvu; Maguindanao; Bagobo Tagabawa; Sama;   Bagobo Klata; Maranao;  Ata;  and Kagan.

The highlight of the celebration was the Indak-Indak sa Kadalanan. It was a street dance contest participated by different schools of different places in Mindanao. The most awaited event also was the Pamulak sa Kadayawan. It was a parade of big and small floats decorated with various flowers, fruits and plants which can be seen in Davao.

I have a great experienced together with my daughter and have fun taking pictures to the floats. It was ended a very successful celebration. Congratulations to the organizers and to the City Mayor Inday Sarah Duterte for making Kadayawan 2011 different from the previous years.

PR Update

I was really surprised when I saw my PR update of this blog drop from PR3 to PR1! I was super disappointed, but I know it is a normal cycle of a blog due to some reasons. Maybe I need to work out more in order to bring back my PR, and to my surprised again after a week of visiting to other blogs and updating my post it went up to PR2 and I was thankful then, that even if it did not reach back to PR3 still PR2 rank is a good rating. Thanks Mr. G.

Assembly Tool For Small Business

I find it hard to redefine the format of my documents especially when there are additional words and format to be added. Sometimes it’s better to start a new document. Good thing that there is already SmoothDocs document templates. You can already accelerate the process of creating from  scratch document to a new format. By using Smoothdocs document template you can avoid errors while doing the revision. It is also very easy to use. You can customize your own template depending on the type of the occasion. It is best for small scale business and it has no risk because they provide free trial edition at no cost. The customer can use the software as long as they like until they decide to purchase. SmoothDocs also provide an E-mail support and user manuals and solutions online at no cost.

Make Your Own Wedding Invitations

Marriage is one of the most precious and memorable event of any person who wants to settle down with his/her special someone. Getting married requires a lot of preparations from the weeding entourage, booking of the reception, church, and the invitations. Speaking of weeding invitations, you can already make your own in an easy and stress free way. It is through the help of wedding invitation templates which is downloadable online. You can create elegant, unique and personalized printable wedding invitations with the use of the template kit in a very affordable price.

 The wedding invitation kit gives you the following benefits:

1. You can save hundreds which means you can stretch out your budget wherein you can already create beautiful invitations including RSVP cards, thank you cards and others.
2. You can give special touch wherein your envelopes should have with theme related envelope seals.
3. You can customize your wedding program and choose your own theme from beginning to end of the ceremony.
4. You can set up your wedding venue with your chosen theme with the help of table cards, menu cards etc.
5. You can create and personalize your own wedding favors using water bottle labels, chocolate wrapper or wine bottle templates.
6. You can personalize with the unique favor tags.
7. You can start working immediately your own wedding stationery with the instant download of the template kit.

Another benefit is you will also receive the exclusive mini EBook with additional wedding invitation wording to make your invitations unique. So try making your own wedding invitations with this downloadable template kit and experience a wedding that is unique and impressing.

Ways To Manage Anger

Though anger is a normal emotion but still it is very important that we know how to manage and deal this feeling. Here are some practical suggestions for dealing with anger.

1.      When you are angry say nothing.

A very easy step isn’t it? If we keep on talking while in anger definitely it will worsen the situation and would eventually hurt the feelings of others. If we can remain silent for a while it gives time for the emotion of anger to leave us. A good technique would be, “When angry count to ten before you speak. If very angry, count to one hundred.”

2. Be indifferent to those who seek to make us angry.

There are really some people who take pleasure in trying to make you angry. However, if we can be unresponsive to them and their words and even feel it is beyond our dignity to recognize them, then their actions and words will have no effect. And if you do not respond to their annoyance, they will lose interest and will not bother you in the future.

3.      Use reason to stop anger.

When you feel angry, try to talk to yourself, thus this anger help me in any way or it will make the situation worse. Even if there is still anger in your inner self but it will help you to distance yourself from the feeling of anger.

4.      Look kindly upon Others.

Other side of dealing anger is by visualizing the other person us a helpless 5 year old child wherein compassion and forgiveness elevate the situation. This is applicable to family members who at times evoke your anger that instead of retaliating the situation, you just condition yourself that he is just too young to know any better like a five year old child.

5.      Value Peace more than anger.

Peace of mind is the most important treasure that we should keep to ourselves. If we value it we prevent anger to remain in our system. I quote from the saying of Sri Chinmoy that says “You may have every right to be angry with someone, but you know that by getting angry with him you will only lose your precious peace of mind.”

6.      Always try to understand those who are cross.

If you don’t mind their accusations and criticisms against you, they will begin to feel guilty about venting their anger on you. Stay calm and eventually they will subconsciously to do the same.

7.      Breathe Deeply.

Breathing deeply will help greatly to remove anger.

8.      Meditation.

If we can practice meditation regularly we can bring inner peace to the front. Since inner peace will help us draw upon during testing times.

9.      Smile

Smile can defuse many negative and tense situations. It offers goodwill to others. It costs nothing to smile, so smile away your anger.

      You don't need a psychology degree online to be able to handle the situations life throws at you, but    you might benefit by taking some online psychology classes to get better at managing anger.
    

When we try to surpass anger, it doesn’t mean we agree to injustice and unfairness. However, whatever our intentions are, it is always best to act with dignity and a clear mind because acting under the influence of anger makes it more difficult to attain what we wish to achieve. So stay calm and relax.

Harmful Effects of Anger To Our Well-Being and Health

Most of us feel angry a few times a week and as many as feel angry daily, according to the Anger Research Consortium. That is whether reacting to unfairness, defending for ourselves, seeking solution for which we are frustrated with; anger changes the image of our being. Anger’s power over us makes it difficult to control. That is why when anger gets over us and we feel out of control and we seem scary to others, it’s natural to suffer the consequences, which includes serious impacts on relationships, health, work performance and most of all the quality of life.

When does anger cross the line from being a useful system fro protecting ourselves to becoming harmful? That is when it affects our ability to function well in our daily life and even hurts our health, relationships and job.

Below are some of the examples when Anger becomes harmful:

• You get angrier than the situation calls for
• You can’t cool off quickly, making it hard to move on
• You feel angry all the time or many times a day
• You’re not always sure why you’re angry, or with whom
• You have a ‘hair trigger’ response and find yourself angry with those closest to you for very little reason
• You turn to physical or verbal aggression
• You lose jobs, friends, or intimate relationships because of your anger
• You turn to drugs or alcohol to cope with feeling angry

It is important to retain and learn to express and manage your anger safely. Otherwise may harm someone else or yourself.

Different Expressions of Anger

It is natural for every person to feel angry when somebody hurts, insults and show injustice to them. It happens very rare that an aggressive response can be a lifesaver. But in every day interactions, our survival can mean that we should behave strongly than a situation might warrant. It means that we should control our emotions in the midst of the moment or else we might regret later on the result of our actions.

1. Cultural influence. Society and culture play a vital role in the difficulty of managing this complex emotion. For Americans, they regard anger as “bad” emotion, making it less acceptable to express than say sadness or anxiety. As a result we don’t learn how to handle our anger constructively.

2. Tolerance levels. Some people have a low tolerance for frustration. They always feel that they don’t deserve for the barrier, inconvenience and annoyance they are facing especially when they think it is unfair to their part.

3. Family background . Family background plays a very important role on how you express anger. If a person comes from a family that doesn’t communicate well, lacks structure and routine, it has the possibility of not having the opportunity to learn how to express anger assertively and constructively.

There are three basic approaches to responding to anger: expression, suppression, and management.

1. Expression. Every one of us express anger in different ways, it ranges from having a calm, reasonable discussion about the feelings until it reaches to blowing up of emotions. Expressing anger includes yelling, punching a wall, breaking or throwing something or it can be express by talking through your feelings, negotiating an apology and change in the relationship, taking action to change the situation or solve a problem.

2. Suppression. It involves holding the anger in, letting it go and changing your focus to something else. It can also be a positive choice to let something go and forgetting, take a time-out or simply avoid and ignore the irritation.

3. Management. Managing anger well is about accepting anger as a normal emotion, paying attention to it and making some choices that allows the person to improve the situations.
The best tactics for anger management are:

• Delay, such as counting to 10 to allow the arousal from anger to dissipate (Thomas Jefferson said if you are really angry, count to 100!)
• Relaxation, such as taking deep breaths or listening to calming music
• Distraction, such as working on a crossword puzzle or taking a walk to get your mind off the situation causing the anger
• Doing something incompatible with anger and aggression, such as petting a puppy, kissing a lover, watching a comedy, or helping someone in need

Where Anger Comes From?

Though anger is a universal human emotion, there are many variables involved why we get angry, how we get angry or how long will our angry last after experiencing a threatening, hurtful and unexpected situation.
1. Families and culture. We usually learn how to express anger from our families and culture on what is appropriate and what is not. It can be that some families and culture are more expressive about anger; others tend to suppress anger in a calm way.

2. Gender. All people, men and women experience anger but they express and manage it differently. Just like men tend to be more aggressive and impulsive in responding to anger, while women tend to talk more about their feelings of anger and stay angry longer. Women are more likely to suppress anger. That is why almost all crimes and violence are involving by men because they cannot control their emotions and tend to express it aggressively.

3. Response to situations. Anger depends in a situation that happened. If  somebody hurts you, you won’t necessarily get angry in response, instead you will know his intention of hurting you and how he respond to your discomfort and so on.
4. Influencing factors
Some of the factors that influence our anger response include:

• The severity of the threat or harm
• The relationship we have with someone who makes us angry and our interpretation of their intent
• Our interpretation of circumstances surrounding the event
• Our life experience and outlook on life
• The environment in which we were raised
• How much stress we’re experiencing
• Genetics
• Our overall mental health, such as post-traumatic stress disorder, depression, bipolar disorder, anxiety, and some personality disorders

What is Anger?

Why do humans get angry? How much control do we really have? Anger is a normal emotion with a wide range of intensity, from mild irritation and frustration to rage. It is a warning bell that tells us that something is wrong. It perceived threat to us, love ones, property, self image or some part of our identity. It is one way of expressing our emotions towards others. Everyone experiences anger, and in one way or another, it can be healthy because it can motivate us to stand up for ourselves and correct injustices when we mange anger well. On the other hand, mismanaged anger can be unhealthy and counterproductive especially when anger is too intense, out of control, misdirected, and overly aggressive. It can lead to poor decision making and problem solving, create problems with relationships at work and can affect your health.

It has three components:

• Physical reactions, usually starting with a rush of adrenaline and responses such as an increased heart rate, blood pressure, and tightening muscles; often known as the “fight or flight” response
• The cognitive experience of anger, or how we perceive and think about what is making us angry. For example, we might think something that happened to us is wrong, unfair, and undeserved.
• Behavior, or the way we express our anger. There is a wide range of behavior that signals anger. We may look and sound angry, turn red, raise our voices, clam up, slam doors, storm away, or otherwise signal to others that we are angry. We may also state that we are angry and why, ask for a time-out, request an apology, or ask for something to change.

Marcelito Pomoy-Pilipinas Got Talent Season 2 Grand Champion

Pilipinas Got Talent Season 2 has just ended last Sunday at the Araneta Coliseum. All of the fourteen grand finalists showed amazing talents to the whole world and the most fortunate among the contestants is Marcelito Pomoy. He is the "Man with the golden female voice".  His rendition of "The Prayer.", gave him standing ovation of the crowd including the three judges, Ms. Kris Aquino, Ai-Ai delas Alas and Mr. FMG. His performance  gave him 19.56% of the total votes over the 13 finalists that made him the Season 2 Grand Champion. Congratulations!

Hot Jobs In the Market

Finding a job is never been as easy as it is. Many of the graduates are still unemployed. One of the reasons of unemployment is wrong choice of course. So if you want to change careers and are looking for a fresh start, then it’s not late to start. A study conducted that nearly 50 percent over the age of 40 have considered a new career start. The good news is that if you are willing to put in the work, you could also be prepared to pursue a new career in less than two years. Check out these 5 hot options if you want to start a new career.

1.      Medical Assistant

This job provides an administrative and clinical help in the doctor’s office, scheduling appointments, taking patients’ medical histories, and performing administrative duties. If you think that you fit in this kind of job, consider enrolling in a medical assisting certificate or associate’s degree program which can be completed for one to two years. The U.S. Department of Labor projected a growth of 34 percent of employment of medical assistants between 2008 and 2018 with an average annual wage of $28,860 up to $40,190.

2.      Paralegal

Paralegals play an important role in law firms like helping lawyers drafting legal documents, investigating cases and providing assistance during trials. To pursue this associate degree generally takes about two years to complete. If you are already a bachelor’s degree, earning a certificate in paralegal can be another option. Certificate programs can be completed for a period of nine months. According to the Department of Labor, employment of paralegals and legal assistants is projected to grow for about 28 percent between 2008 and 2018. it has an average annual income of $46,680 up to $74,870.

3.      Administrative Assistant

They often provide customer support, organize important documents, and schedule meetings. It can be completed for about one to two years program in office administration. Opportunities may be best if you have strong knowledge of computer software applications. It is projected to grow 11 percent between 2008- and 2018. the average earning potential for secretaries and administrative assistants is $32,000 up to $46,430.

4.      Computer Support Specialist

They usually work as technical or help desk support, providing support and advice to individuals and organizations that are dependent on information technology. To get with the program you must get an associate degree in a computer-related topic of study for some computer support positions, according to the Department of Labor. According to them it is expected to increase by 14% from 2008 to 2018. They estimated an average annual income of $46,260 up to $76,970.

5.      Dental Assistant

They are considered as the dentist’s second pair of hands, preparing the instruments required for procedures and preparing patients for treatment by updating their records and making them comfortable during their appointments. To pursue this career you can enroll in a two-year associate’s degree program or a certificate in dental assisting which can be completed for 1 year. It is projected by the Department of Labor to grow by 36% from 2008 to 2018 with an average annual income of $33,470 up to $47,090.

How To Get Adderall?

How to get adderall? You can purchase adderall online or buying adderall online. It is the most convenient way and hassle free of buying medicines. Do you have relatives and friends who have a child suffering from attention deficit hyperactivity disorder or ADHD? It is probably the most stressful kind of life when it comes to adjusting the behavior of the child. It requires lot of patience, understanding, love and affection in order for the child to feel the sense of belongingness. But the burden can now be hastened because the doctors already discovered the drug to help the patient suffering from such illness. And it is through adderall. It is a medication usually used for patients diagnosed with attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder and narcolepsy. Adderall is a brand name of psychostimulant medication which is all amphetamine salts. It is responsible for the increase of the amount of dopamine and norepinephrine in the brain. It has two formulations, the Instant Release (IR) and the Extended Release (ER). The Instant Release formulation is usually use for attention deficit hyperactivity disorder or ADHD and narcolepsy. The XR formulation is for ADHD use only. It has been shown that adderall reduces the symptoms associated with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder or ADHD. A minimal side effect is shown depending on the dosage taken by the patients who can last for several hours giving him an improved performance throughout the day. That is why it is a highly recommended drug for patients with ADHD. Aside from ADHD and narcolepsy, adderall is also used to manage cases of treatment-resistant depression and exogenous obesity..  You just need to follow the prescription properly to avoid misuse of the drug which can result to addiction. Since, like any other powerful drugs such as cocaine, adderall directly affects the mesolimbic reward pathway in the brain. Because of that effect, it has a high potential for abuse and addiction especially when it is misused

Job Hunting Tips

Landing a job is very tough especially for those with little experience or most especially to the fresh graduates. That is why is very important to know the important steps to go through in order to get the job that you are applying for.
1. Do Your Research
It is very important that before going for an interview, be sure that you have research the company that you are applying to. You have to understand the company profile so that you will have the idea of what the company is all about. It that point, you can deliver an impressive answer to the interviewer.
2. Practice Interviewing
It is said that practice makes perfect. That is why take your time to practice for an interview. You can ask a family member or a friend to act as an interviewer and ask the most common interview questions so you can have the idea and polished your answers and can think on what to say ahead of time instead of winging it.
3. Come Prepared With Questions
It usually happened that at the end of any job interview, the interviewer will ask you if you have any questions for them. Be sure you have prepared a few questions to ask the interviewer. This can be anything related to the job. By doing this, it will show interest in the interviewer and the company.
4. Dress Up
When you are in doubt on what to wear especially for the women, it is more impressive to wear formal dress. It will show that you are professional and that you are taking the interview process seriously.
5. Be Flexible
If you are applying for a job, don’t limit yourself to just one company or place. Be open minded about other potential opportunities.
6. Keep Building Your Resume
Remember applying for a job is a competition. Therefore you must have something to write in your resume that is more likely to impress the interviewer like the skills, the talents, the seminars, or part time job you undertaken. By doing this you can market yourself better.

7. Figure Out Where You Are Going Wrong
If you haven’t receive a call for an interview, try to go over your resume, there might be something missing or wrong on what you have written. Have it proffread as many times or have it checked to a grammarian. If you are getting an interview but not getting the job, there must be problems on how you answer during the interview, in that case you have to practice your interviewing skills so that you can be more successful in your next interview and finally get the job.
8. Utilize Your Network
Oftentimes when it comes to getting hired, it’s not on what you know but of whom you know. Reach out to the people you know for some assistance in getting the job. They might give you a hint of the vacant position in the company which fits your qualifications.
8. Don't Rely Solely on the Internet
Applying a job through the internet is not a guarantee that you will get a faster employment. If you want to get hired faster, be sure to attend job fairs sponsored by the government, schools and malls. It gives you a bigger chances of getting hired faster.
9. Send Thank You Notes
After in every interview, don’t forget to send a thank you notes to the person who interviewed you. A thank you note shows that you appreciate the interviewer’s time and gives you an advantage over the others who don’t send.
10. Don't Get Discouraged
If you are rejected of the jobs that you are applying for, don’t get discouraged. Always remember that getting a job is hard and you have many competitors. Just keep on sending your resume and stay positive.
11. Utilize Your School's Resources
Most schools have a career program to facilitate the graduating students in getting a job after graduation. Be sure to participate in that activity so that you can be guided on what to do in applying a job. Check out also the recent job postings found at the job window of your Guidance Center.

Are You A Computer Addict?

Scientific studies show that computer addiction affects the brain in pretty much the same as drug addiction changes the brain chemistry by stimulating the reward circuit of the brain. As human beings we are likely to repeat doing the things we find rewarding. The pleasure one experiences from this activity triggers the release of a brain chemical known as dopamine, which makes the person to want more. This brings a cycle of pleasure and elation to repeat the behavior, which in turn leads to the increasing desire to relish reward.  Soon the person craves to go up to a higher level of excitement with perverted thinking and uncontrolled behavior. I can say that it is true because my kids are doing this. They can’t be stop once they are facing the computer.

It is said that computer addiction is a serious matter. We should not take it for granted. Many have lost a loved one or their work because of computer addiction. But how do you know that you have too much of computer or the internet? There are questions below and if you answer at least seven Yes to it, then you can be considered as having a pathological Internet addiction.

1.                  Do I lose interest in the other activities I used to engage in?

2.                  Would I rather miss my regular meals than miss the internet?

3.                  Am I craving for more time online and feel restless when not engaged?

4.                  Do I feel irritable and aggressive when interrupted or when the connection is low?

5.                  Do I stay in the computer longer than I intended?

6.                  Am I neglecting family and friends and or responsibilities in order to be online?

7.                  Is my internet use interfering with my job or school responsibilities?

8.                  Do I use the internet as an outlet when lonely, upset or sad?

9.                  Do I lie about the amount of time on the internet and what I am browsing?

10.             Am I sleeping late because of internet browsing or playing games?

So how can we control computer and internet addiction? Below are some of the suggestions that we can apply.

1.                  Parents should be role models for their children.

2.                  Put computer in a common place in the house like the living room so that parents can easily monitor on what the children’s are doing in the computer.

3.                  Have family meals at the table in regular times.

4.                  Get involved in some sports.

5.                  Go to bed on time.

6.                  Develop a strong network of friends which will provide mental and emotional support.

7.                  Plan  family activities.

8.                  Limit computer use. List the things you need and want to open in the web. Set a time for each site and stick to the time allotted.

9.                  Be aware of the signs of computer addiction listed above.

10.              If you are too addicted, seek for professional help.

11.              Above all ask God’s help to help yourself detach from the excitement of computer use.

Computer and internet can help the person in some aspects but it can ruin lives and relationships if not handled responsibly.