Though anger is a universal human emotion, there are many variables involved why we get angry, how we get angry or how long will our angry last after experiencing a threatening, hurtful and unexpected situation.
1. Families and culture. We usually learn how to express anger from our families and culture on what is appropriate and what is not. It can be that some families and culture are more expressive about anger; others tend to suppress anger in a calm way.
2. Gender. All people, men and women experience anger but they express and manage it differently. Just like men tend to be more aggressive and impulsive in responding to anger, while women tend to talk more about their feelings of anger and stay angry longer. Women are more likely to suppress anger. That is why almost all crimes and violence are involving by men because they cannot control their emotions and tend to express it aggressively.
3. Response to situations. Anger depends in a situation that happened. If somebody hurts you, you won’t necessarily get angry in response, instead you will know his intention of hurting you and how he respond to your discomfort and so on.
4. Influencing factors
Some of the factors that influence our anger response include:
- The severity of the threat or harm
- The relationship we have with someone who makes us angry and our interpretation of their intent
- Our interpretation of circumstances surrounding the event
- Our life experience and outlook on life
- The environment in which we were raised
- How much stress we’re experiencing
- Our overall mental health, such as post-traumatic stress disorder, depression, bipolar disorder, anxiety, and some personality disorders