Tuesday, July 5, 2011

Ways To Manage Anger

Though anger is a normal emotion but still it is very important that we know how to manage and deal this feeling. Here are some practical suggestions for dealing with anger.
1.      When you are angry say nothing.
A very easy step isn’t it? If we keep on talking while in anger definitely it will worsen the situation and would eventually hurt the feelings of others. If we can remain silent for a while it gives time for the emotion of anger to leave us. A good technique would be, “When angry count to ten before you speak. If very angry, count to one hundred.”
2. Be indifferent to those who seek to make us angry.
There are really some people who take pleasure in trying to make you angry. However, if we can be unresponsive to them and their words and even feel it is beyond our dignity to recognize them, then their actions and words will have no effect. And if you do not respond to their annoyance, they will lose interest and will not bother you in the future.
3.      Use reason to stop anger.
When you feel angry, try to talk to yourself, thus this anger help me in any way or it will make the situation worse. Even if there is still anger in your inner self but it will help you to distance yourself from the feeling of anger.
4.      Look kindly upon Others.
Other side of dealing anger is by visualizing the other person us a helpless 5 year old child wherein compassion and forgiveness elevate the situation. This is applicable to family members who at times evoke your anger that instead of retaliating the situation, you just condition yourself that he is just too young to know any better like a five year old child.
5.      Value Peace more than anger.
Peace of mind is the most important treasure that we should keep to ourselves. If we value it we prevent anger to remain in our system. I quote from the saying of Sri Chinmoy that says “You may have every right to be angry with someone, but you know that by getting angry with him you will only lose your precious peace of mind.”
6.      Always try to understand those who are cross.
If you don’t mind their accusations and criticisms against you, they will begin to feel guilty about venting their anger on you. Stay calm and eventually they will subconsciously to do the same.
7.      Breathe Deeply.
Breathing deeply will help greatly to remove anger.
8.      Meditation.
If we can practice meditation regularly we can bring inner peace to the front. Since inner peace will help us draw upon during testing times.
9.      Smile
Smile can defuse many negative and tense situations. It offers goodwill to others. It costs nothing to smile, so smile away your anger.

      You don't need a psychology degree online to be able to handle the situations life throws at you, but    you might benefit by taking some online psychology classes to get better at managing anger.
    
When we try to surpass anger, it doesn’t mean we agree to injustice and unfairness. However, whatever our intentions are, it is always best to act with dignity and a clear mind because acting under the influence of anger makes it more difficult to attain what we wish to achieve. So stay calm and relax.

1 comment:

reese said...

wow! thanks for sharing these tips